Finding Your Tribe

Remember your first day of kindergarten? Or the time you moved to a new town? Or how about when you started your first job? You were the odd man out or the wallflower new girl. But you approached it with a sense of optimism, and fitting in was a foregone conclusion. You took a few…

Courage After a Crisis

The first step toward finding new success after a crisis or loss often begins with redefining failure. No, your divorce cannot be redefined as a success, nor can financial ruin, the loss of a leg, or being downsized from VP to the unemployment line. But rising from your own ashes – whether your cremation was…

The Streetcar of Your Life Keeps Moving On

All of the people, places, and things in your life are subject to change. Even your involvement with family can be greatly transformed with adulthood, school, a job transfer, marriage, divorce, or tragedy. My grandma used to say, that, like a streetcar, people get on and off at every stop. Few if any will travel…

There Is Nothing Shameful About Shame

Shame is a debilitating ordeal that we often impose on ourselves. Unlike simple embarrassment, it does not come and go with the redness in our cheeks. It reaches to our very core with its potent and paralytic toxin that seems to make the worst parts of us glow in the dark and turns the best…

No Regrets: Five Ways To Work Through Your Regrets

We’ve all made decisions we’ve later regretted, and thinking back on past mistakes can be upsetting and depressing. Regrets can leave you feeling unsatisfied with your life and can influence your future, too, if you become afraid of making decisions in case you later regret them. It doesn’t matter what the original problem or decision…

The Sting of a Stigma Does Not Have to Define You

What if we could put on a special pair of glasses and see everyone, complete with all of their baggage and demons? Walking down the street, we would see scarlet letters of shame on the foreheads of every other man and woman. We would see huge monkeys on the backs of passers-by, some made of…